You’ve heard the whisper inside you.

That quiet knowing that something is shifting. That the life you’ve built—while perhaps successful on the outside—no longer feels like it fits. You want something more aligned, more authentic, more you.

But with that knowing often comes fear. A tightness in your chest. Racing thoughts. What if I mess this up? What if I lose everything? What if I have no idea what I’m doing?

If this is you, I want you to know: You’re not doing it wrong. You’re simply at the beginning of something brave.

The Myth of the Fearless Woman

We live in a culture that celebrates certainty. Confidence. Clarity. Bold moves and clean exits.

But behind so many of those curated stories is another truth: most women in transition feel scared out of their minds.

Maybe you’ve left a job, a marriage, or a role that defined you. Maybe you’re still in it—but dreaming of something different. Maybe change found you in a way you didn’t choose. Either way, you’re standing at the edge of what was, staring into the unknown. And it’s scary.

Here’s what no one tells you: fear doesn’t mean you’re off-track.

Fear is simply your nervous system doing its job. It’s designed to keep you safe, especially when stepping into unfamiliar territory. The problem is that most of us were never taught how to discern between true danger and growth discomfort.

Fear Doesn’t Mean Stop

One of the most liberating truths you can embrace in this season is this:

You can feel fear and still be ready.

Waiting until the fear goes away to take action will keep you stuck. Because the fear often doesn’t leave until you take the step.

You don’t need to “get over it.” You need to understand it.

Fear says:

• “Who do you think you are?”
  
  

• “You’ve never done this before—what if you fail?”
  
  

• “What if you lose something important by changing?”
  

These questions aren’t signs that you’re failing—they’re signs that your brain is trying to protect you. And you can thank it, gently, and still choose to move forward.

The Sacred Middle Place

This moment you’re in right now—the middle place between the old life and the new—is tender. And it matters. You don’t have to leap. You don’t have to rush. You do have to stay with yourself.

This is the time to build a relationship with your fear. To notice its voice without letting it drive. To create emotional safety within yourself even if nothing outside you feels certain.

How do you do that? Start small.

Here are a few gentle tools to help you build trust with yourself in the presence of fear:

• Name It.
  “I’m feeling afraid” is a powerful sentence. Naming fear takes away its power to control you.
  
  

• Breathe Into It.
  A slow exhale tells your body: “I’m safe right now.” Do this a few times a day when your fear spikes.
  
  

• Write to It.
  Journaling a letter from your fear helps you hear what it’s trying to say—and see what’s underneath.
  
  

• Make One Tiny Move.
  Fear often dissipates when we take a single small action. Send the email. Sign up for the class. Say no (or yes).
  
  

• Reach Out.
  Fear grows in isolation. You are not alone. Talk to a friend, a coach, a trusted guide. Let someone witness your bravery.
  

What If Fear Is Part of the Calling?

Here’s the truth that changed everything for me: Fear isn’t the opposite of your calling. Sometimes it’s the doorway.

Feeling scared doesn’t mean the dream is wrong—it means it’s big enough to change you. It means you’re standing at the edge of transformation. And even if you can’t see what’s next, you’re already becoming someone who can meet it.

So if you’re shaking, questioning, or feeling like you’re “not ready”—I want to bless that part of you.

Because the women who are brave enough to stay with themselves through the fear?

Those are the women who create deeper impact.

You’re Not Alone in This

At Heart Tru Living, we walk with women just like you—smart, intuitive, strong women who are also scared, uncertain, and in transition. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to stay connected to yourself. And take one step.

Fear doesn’t mean stop. Fear means listen, pause, and choose with love.

You’ve got this. Even if your knees are shaking. Especially then.

Get a Deeper Dive into Managing Fear

Whether you're ready to step into change, or are in the midst of it, fear is part of the journey.

In the workshop, Scared Sh**less, Doing it Anyway: Leading Your Self Through Change, learn how to identify the role fear plays, its internal sources, and how to relate to it in a way that softens it so you can lead your Self (and others) forward.